THINGS THAT MATTER MOST TO ME
Photographer: Laju Eresanara
With the busyness of life comes responsibilities–which often times takes our attention from what really should matter most to us. I have decided to journal and share the things that matter most to me so that I can always have a constant reminder. Also imperatively, so you guys can learn something and hopefully figure out what things are most important to you as well. The top 3 most important things to me in this season of my life are my friendships, Love, and finding my purpose.
- Friendships (Psalm 1:1–Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, Nor stands in the paths of sinners, Nor sits in the sits of the scornful):
I can’t even begin to stress how significant finding people who you can do life with is. People who constantly push you to be better versions of yourself, who tell you the truth no matter what but who also know the importance of serving you truth with grace. Friendships mean a lot to me because through them, I have learned to grow and understand myself better.
- Love (1 Peter 4:8– Above all things, have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”):
I think it is first of all very important to understand that we all give and receive love differently- if you’ve read ‘The Five Love Languages’ by Gary Chapman, you would understand what I am talking about. Love requires dying to oneself daily no matter where the love is being manifested. Whether it’s in our relationship with God, spouse, friends or teachers we have to constantly die to ourselves in order to truly glean what it is we are supposed to from that relationship. Love is patient and Kind… Love Does. It doesn’t wait for the other person to act before it decides to act. I think the reason why we are so interested in wanting to be in love — Married — is because we want to experience that perfect love. Perfect love comes from God and Marriage is supposed to be a reflection of that. In essence. Love matters to me because it is a reminder that I still have a lot of work (dying to self) to do.
- Purpose (Ecclesiastics 3:17b– “For there is a time there for every purpose and for every work”):
“Finding your purpose gives you motivation”–Bob Phillips in ’42 Days to Feeling Great’. We need goals and direction in life, we need to be willing to take the step of faith in achieving these goals but imperatively, we need to know where it is that we want to go. We shouldn’t be afraid to ask for direction or to seek help when we just don’t know. Sometimes we think that if we ask for help we would be perceived as weak or unknowledgeable and in my opinion that’s okay–weakness can sometimes be strength.
A friend of mine once told me that if I find my purpose, i.e. figuring out what God wants me to do with my life, a relationship (with a significant other) would be more meaningful to me. While I agree, I have my reservations. It kind of suggests that we should only get into a relationship when we are ‘perfect’. If we go back to love, we see that it is a process of growth, a process of dying to yourself and when we marry that with purpose, we get two people who push each other and fight for each other in fulfilling destiny. I guess what I am really trying to say and why finding my purpose means so much to me is, we all don’t have to have it all figured out. We should just keep moving and pushing through despite setbacks and we definitely don’t need to attain perfection to be loved.
PS: Isn’t it awesome how we can find scriptures for pretty much anything?
** Did this photoshoot with my sister, loved it so much i decided to share them with you guys
Earrings: City Market in Nairobi, Kenya
Top: Ankara (Made in Nigeria)