10 things I wish I had known before I started dating

I have been on the dating scene for a couple of years and unfortunately have had my fair share of misogynists, douchebags, and manipulative men. You know what they say hindsight is 20/20 and if I knew then what I know now, I wouldn’t have kissed my fair share of frogs!

Here are some of the things I wish I had known before I started dating

1. Just because he’s nice doesn’t mean I have to date him:  My mom always told me not to take a bite of the cake if I wasn’t planning to eat the whole thing. Of course, that’s a metaphor for life but it applies in this situation. Just because a guy is nice to me doesn’t mean I am meant to date him. It’s okay to have guy friends and not expect that the relationship will develop into something other than what it is- Friendship.

2. Trust My Instincts: My instincts are there for a reason. If I feel something isn’t right about a situation, I owe it to myself to not ignore it.

3. Stop Looking so hard for the right guy…or any guy at all: The right guy will come, I should remain focused on me. Figure out what sets me on fire. Pursue my passions relentlessly.

4. My feelings are valid: My feelings are real and I don’t need a label to justify them (label of a relationship). I might like a guy who doesn’t reciprocate my feelings and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean my feelings aren’t valid. I just have to remember to focus on what’s important- developing myself.

5. I am enough: The idea that I needed someone to make me whole should never have crossed my mind. I am complete and no man should make ever make me feel less than.

6. It is okay to have doubts: The idea that I have to be 100% certain of a guy before I date him isn’t realistic. Of course, I have to watch out for red flags, but enjoying the process of getting to know someone is also very important.

7. Being alone isn’t such a bad thing: enjoying singleness is very key. If I can appreciate my singleness, then I would eventually appreciate my relationship.

8. A better understanding of the word love: “Love”Just because he tells me he loves me doesn’t mean I have to tell him I love him too, especially if I do not. Saying “I love you” is a huge commitment and it carries a lot of responsibilities with it. It’s not something that should be thrown around because I feel obligated to.

9. I don’t have to do everything they tell me to do just to keep the peace: I wish I had known that it is okay to refuse to compromise my standards just to please a man.

10. If my parents, siblings, or friends don’t like ’em, I probably should re-evaluate things.

Bonus: Don’t date just for the fun of it: guard your heart, for out of it flows the issues of life.

What I wore

Pants: Hollister

Shoes: Gap

Bag: Primark

Top: Boohoo

Glasses: On the streets of Lagos

XoXo

Wai

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4 Comments Add yours

  1. Kadi says:

    Reblogged this on PassionLocked and commented:
    Amazing Post about Dating!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Kadi says:

    I reposted your blog, I hope you don’t mind- because I found it to be soooo true and relatable. It is well-written and I enjoyed reading it.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Wai says:

      Thank you!! It’s totally fine 😊😊 I’m glad you enjoyed reading it. ♥️

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Tinu says:

    I totally agree Hun.. You are enough and the right guy will surely come to you..👍
    You look great too😘

    Check out my new post.. Its on a lovely Ankara dress that can be worn to almost every occasion.

    https://tinutrends.wordpress.com/2018/04/07/the-ankara-dress-you-can-wear-to-every-occasion/

    Like

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